Imagine being able to completely re invent your life. To start over. To mold yourself into a new you.
Its an enjoyable and fulfilling process.
But its not for everyone, not everyone has what it takes.
If you are a person who has a hunger for more. Who wants freedom. Who wants to be their greatest self, this is for you.
It takes work to re create yourself. That’s why few people truly do. But the benefits of doing so will change your life forever.
Have fun with it. Take it on as a challenge.
Mold your own life, don’t let others mold it for you.
It is very easy to get trapped in our day to day lives and feel like there is no way out.
Before we get started let me ask you a couple questions.
Are you a person who:
Feels like you were made for more?
Wants to make an impact on the world around them?
Wants freedom from the ‘herd’- but it seems impossible to achieve?
Feel trapped and weighed down and don’t know how to change it?
Do you find yourself saying things like:
Too many people depend on me.
I don’t want to upset others or cause waves.
I am comfortable at my job and get paid well.
It would be too much work to change. I am scared of it not working out.
If any of this resonates with you, you want to make changes, you are just living in fear.
Fear of the unknown.
We create lives that we become comfortable in, but that comfort can become our trap.
Being scared of change is something I have seen ruin a lot of peoples happiness. They get so overwhelmed by their fear of change, they can never relax and be happy.
Because change is always around every corner. Change is the only thing in this world we can really rely on. Change is coming no matter if we like it or not.
As humans so much is entirely out of our control. People die, money changes, relationships change, job security changes.
It is our resistance to change which causes us suffering. At the root of that fear, is lack of trust in yourself. You need to know you will be okay no matter what happens.
Because you always will be. You have survived every single thing and event in your life up until now, and you will survive whatever else life throws at you.
Which brings me to my first point. To Re Create yourself you must:
1. START TRUSTING IN YOUR OWN DECISIONS
If we want to create a new life, we must first learn to trust ourselves 100%.
You must decide what it is that YOU want and have the courage to follow it. Not everyone is going to like or agree with your decisions. This is where you must learn to think for yourself.
If you let fear and doubt run the show you wont make it very far fast. You will stop to listen to every dog that barks and lose focus on what you want.
Stop being a people pleaser. Stop doing what makes everyone else happy, but leaves you unfulfilled. This causes massive resentment. I know, because I used to be too afraid of doing what I really wanted, because it would affect others. I was resentful at everyone else, without realizing I was responsible for my part. Its a great trait to love helping others, but you cant let it cost you your own happiness.
Sometimes stepping back and allowing others to find their own way for a while is healthier for everybody.
If you need help with self trust and want to stop caring what people think of your decisions so much I would check out this post.
2. START ACTING THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE
Or in other words fake it till you make it. This is also a form of manifestation. There are a lot of successful people who have figured a lot out. We can take the information they give us and use it to our advantage.
If you want to be a certain way, follow what that person does.
If you want to be an inspirational speaker, start copying what the person you admire has done. Study how they have gotten to where they are, learn from their mistakes.
We can save a lot of time by learning from others. Sure mistakes we make tend to have a far greater impact, but we can get further faster by learning from the best.
If you want to be taken professionally, you have to dress and act that way.
Take note of how people hold themselves. Take note of what it is you desire, and then turn yourself into that. Ask yourself, would this person do this? Or say this? And then adjust accordingly. This is a powerful tool in re creating yourself.
Imagine what it is you want, start to align your actions, thoughts, looks etc., and then actively chose everyday.
Stand tall and proud. Act confident. Speak confidently. Watch your world change. People pay attention to how you act. What you do either says I am scared, or I am in charge.
Eventually you wont be faking it anymore. It will come as second nature.
3. GET RID OF ANYTHING THAT WEIGHS YOU DOWN
We all have things we do we know aren’t good for us. We have people and things we know we should let go of, but it seems easier to just let it stay the same.
Sometimes we allow these things to stay in our lives for far longer than they should. We give to much energy away on people and things that don’t matter.
Holding onto things that no longer serve us can be really harmful for us in the long term.
We don’t realize how much of a burden they become until we get rid of them.
This can come in the form of anything that makes you feel stuck.
Friendships that you have outgrown.
The job you hate.
The bad habits you partake in.
The thoughts that you think.
In other words, all the things we know we need to let go of to become the best version of ourselves.
Anything that doesn’t set your soul on fire, or make you a better version of you, get rid of.
Once you start loving yourself more, you wont tolerate any person or thing that makes you feel bad. Its not harsh, its self love.
If you want some tough love on toxic friendships, read this.
4. STOP WASTING TIME ON THINGS THAT DON’T GIVE BACK
We waste a lot of our time on pointless things.
Binge watching TV and YouTube.
Playing video games.
Wasting time not being productive.
Its easy to get caught up in stuff that probably doesn’t have anything to do with us and ultimately isn’t helping us get ahead in life.
Human beings are drawn to drama. We as a society are addicted to it. To a certain degree its hard not to be.
There is always a new scandal in Hollywood.
A new reality TV show.
Friends and family drama.
There is always something to take our time away. If we don’t actively pay attention to how we spend our time, we are going to waste a lot of it.
Sure you can sit around and waste your evenings watching TV and letting other people make money, or you can be out there re creating yourself.
Learn how to become a doer. Don’t let opportunities pass you by. Get out there and work on yourself. Re create yourself.
Spend your time adding value to your life. Become stronger, or smarter. Do something that benefits future you.
We need to realize how precious time is, and that we don’t get forever. We never know when our time will be up. Don’t waste the time we do have.
5. DO THE THING YOU’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO DO
Travel. Buy that house. Move cities. Go back to school. Start a business.
Do the thing your heart has been calling you to do.
There is so much to see and do. Its sad to waste our lives doing the same thing over and over.
I want to adventure. Make memories. Make mistakes. I want to try different food. Go to different cities. Explore other cultures.
I want to go to my death bed saying what a crazy ride, not wishing I would have done more.
Get out of your head so much, don’t be afraid to try new things.
Do the thing you’ve always wanted to do!
6. BECOME MORE VALUABLE
The best thing you can ever invest in is yourself. No matter what happens, if you can depend on yourself, you are unstoppable.
The more we learn, the more we realize how much we don’t know. How much there is to learn in this world. And we must never stop learning and growing.
The time we spend working on becoming a person of value is never wasted.
You can never become to valuable. You are never to good to be greater.
The more value you bring, the more opportunities you get. The more people will need you. Someone will always need something that you can offer.
You will be able to get through any circumstance and know you will survive. The more value we add to our lives, the better we get at everything. You will always find a way.
Be a great communicator. A good boss. Try to learn something new whenever you can. Keep an open mind. Take new classes. Go to workshops. Learn from your mistakes. Meditate. Work on your physique. Share your knowledge. Help others whenever you can. Read books. watch documentaries. Keep an open mind.
Become a person of value, it will never go out of style.
7. KNOW YOURSELF
One of the most, if not the most important thing you can do in this life, is to know yourself.
To really find out and explore who you are.
Not who your parents want you to be. Not even what race you identify with. But who you really are. Who your soul is.
What makes you tick? What drives you crazy? What makes you angry?
What are your weaknesses and strengths?
What do you need to work on?
What makes you happy?
What are you passionate about?
What do you want to accomplish with your time on earth?
I don’t think anyone can truly re create themselves, unless they are willing to really get to know themselves. We must accept ourselves for who we are, flaws and all first.
Sometimes its not even about becoming something your not, sometimes its about returning to your authentic state. Sometimes its about unbecoming everything you’ve been told you had to be.
Living in your authentic state is detrimental to being truly happy. To being in alignment with your higher self.
Be a little weird, you’re people love your weirdness.
8. STOP LIVING IN THE PAST
Maybe your parents didn’t do a lot of things right. Maybe you have been wronged. Maybe there have been a lot of unfair circumstances in life.
That doesn’t mean that you still have to live there. People tell themselves the same old stories and replay the past like its still happening. They live in a victim mentality.
A victim mentality will do nothing but keep you stuck. A victim mentality will give you an excuse to not even try to be your best.
That’s the harsh truth.
Not everything that happens in our lives is fair, some is downright cruel. We cant change what happened, but we can change the now.
I urge you to start thinking differently about your problems.
Be thankful you got to experience and learn through those tough times. We really only learn through pain. If everything is always a success or good, we would never learn anything. I urge you to change the story in your head. Start to think that every thing you’ve been put thorough is shaping you into the person you need to be for the future. To handle things that are coming your way.
Be the person who is going to live a better life than what they were handed. We don’t get to chose our cards, but we can chose how to play them.
We are only helpless if we allow our selves to think we are.
There are people in the world that have made miraculous comebacks from setbacks, and who have been given terrible deals in life. I can guarantee you, there is always someone out there in this world that has suffered more than you.
They can chose to live with their story and let it define them, or they can use it for something better. To help others who have gone through the same. To inspire other people. To show them anything is possible.
Its only what we believe in that is real. You are not damaged, you are not your past. You are not what shitty thing happened to you. You are spirit, you are entirely capable of doing anything you set your mind too.
Its time you start believing that too.
“You can rise up from anything. You can completely recreate yourself. Nothing is permanent. You’re not stuck. You have choices. You can think new thoughts. You can learn something new. You can create new habits. All that matters is that you decide today and never look back.”
We have created the lives that we live. We need to stop allowing and leaving so much up to chance. Some big wand isn’t going to come and change your life for you, you have to show up for you, and change your life.
We do have to ability to become free.
Become a product of your own decisions, not your circumstances.
We can only be free if we let go of all that is holding us down.
Sure some people may not understand your path.
They aren’t you, and they aren’t living your life. Remember that.
Become the authority in your own life. You are the creator.
You cant do it wrong. Create yourself into whoever you want to be.
After all, we are all here on this earth to create, and creating yourself into your best self, is one of the most important things you will do.