Most people don’t actively choose, or pay attention to the people who surround them on a regular basis. I know I didn’t, until I realized I was surrounded by a bunch of people that I didn’t relate to, didn’t like, and made me feel stuck.
Who you surround yourself with is so much more important than you realize. It makes or breaks you.
So in a typical no bullshit fashion- I am going to cut right to the chase.
The cliche “you become the average of the 5 people you surround yourself with,” is true.
You should be hanging out with people who always want whats best for you.
Friendships should be a source of happiness and comfort. You should feel heard, empowered, motivated and balanced in your friendships.
And if you’re not, you need to raise your standards.
I don’t think I need to tell you the signs of toxic friendships. You KNOW if something doesn’t feel right.
It will be subtle, but overtime, it will kill your confidence and self trust.
Self trust is so important. You don’t need to ask other peoples opinions. Asking permission and the opinion of others all the time means you don’t trust your own intuition. You know yourself whats right.
Trust in your own inner voice and abilities.
I have a highly in tune intuition- but I didn’t always listen to it and I paid the price.
Do you trust in your ability to make decisions and do you trust your gut instincts? The more you trust yourself, the more you will trust the vibes you get and act on them.
That’s where true confidence is born.
Not in following the herd and being afraid of what others are going to think. Everyone has an opinion, the sooner you realize it wont matter what you do, people are going to talk, the better off you will be.
It doesn’t matter how long you have been friends, what you’ve been through, how close your families are etc.,
I am here to tell you, you do not have to feel guilty for outgrowing, or deciding that a friendship is no longer serving you.
You don’t need to apologize for putting yourself and your needs first. It is imperative that you do.
You don’t have to be mean or cruel. You just need to take the band-aid off and get it over with. Stay calm, cool and collected.
Don’t talk to other friends or other people about it, don’t cause drama, don’t cause bullshit.
Do what you know is best for you, and don’t look back. Look ahead, and don’t give away any more of your energy to the situation.
Be unapologetic. It may sounds harsh, but to me, its necessary.
That is called self care, and self respect. If we continue to hold onto things that are keeping us stuck, we can never grow into being our best selves.
Your friends should feel privileged to be your friend. You should also be being the type of friend you expect to have.
You should see your value, and anyone that doesn’t, adios baby. Never ever beg for anyone to stay in your life.
By not actively choosing who is allowed to be a part of your life, you are giving away the keys to your own inner peace and happiness.
It is so refreshing to drop the fakes, drop the act, decide what you will and will not tolerate, and then get after it.
Just watch all the bad-ass, goal oriented, authentic people who you’ve been waiting for, show up in your life, because you made room for them.